Do you ever wonder why you are always so tired? I know I do, so I did some research! I'm sure that none of the things I am going to share with you are going to be a surprise but I know that when we hear things more than once, we pay more attention and try to make some changes in our lives. This is my hope for all of the moms out there!
Stress seems to be the number one cause of sleep deprivation. Do you over schedule yourself? Feeling like you are pulled in 20 different directions? Do you always wish there were more hours in the day? Oh yes, of course you do...your a mom! We spend so much time ensuring that our kids are scheduled just the right amount, but what about us? When do you learn to say "No"? It's the hardest thing to do, but it is probably the most important thing you can do for yourself. Remember, there is no prize for the mom who does the most. It's okay to say no and do something for yourself every now and then. By relieving stress you are able to become a better mom.
Anxiety is another big one. Stress can cause anxiety and it's so important to find time to relax. Try meditation, yoga, or long walks listening to your favorite tunes. None of these costs any money and can be done right at home in between car pool and playdates. I have had a lot of anxiety over the past several years. I think as a mom we are always worrying about what "might" happen and the more I live in that world the more anxious I became.
Depression is an interesting one and I think is the hardest one to accept as it has such a negative stigmatism in the community but one that we really need to be aware of. I think that a lot of times we don't even know that we may be depressed because we are too busy trying to be perfect. I know this was the case for me. When nothing is good enough and you continue to strive for more and more when ultimately nothing is going to live up to what is in your head. When we are feeling less than perfect, we try to over compensate for what we are depressed about and then the stress and anxiety start...it's a horrible cycle that needs to be broken. Once I realized this and stopped trying to be perfect, my stress was lowered and in turn I was less anxious and depressed. It's a vicious cycle where lack of sleep can increase the severity of stress, anxiety, and depression.
For me, the combination of meditation, exercise, and not over scheduling myself has truly helped me to reduce my stress which then allowed for me to be less anxious and depressed and saying "no" has been extremely liberating. I also turn to my close friends to lean on to help me through the difficult days.